Saturday, January 19, 2013

The Storm

As I peruse my pictures from Virginia, I'm overloaded with memories (good and bad) and overwhelmed with the stories that could and should be told.  Five years of living comes with lots to write about.  Where to start...where to start?

  Before we moved to Richmond, Steve and his brother Gary (also had been accepted into dental school) flew there and scouted out apartments for our families.  They did a REALLY good job.  They signed leases at a brand new complex on the west end of Richmond.  It was in one of the newest nicest neighborhoods in Richmond.  It was clean, safe, big and wonderful.  We had a two bedroom, two bathroom apartment with a nice bright kitchen and small balcony.  It was the nicest place we had ever rented.  It was perfect for our little family of four...but we had signed the lease on a special deal the complex was having, and there was no way we could afford the renew the lease after our year was up. 

 In Richmond, the LDS dental students congregated in two main areas.  One was still on the west end at at the Chelsea apartments and one was on the south side of Richmond at the Meadowbrook apartments.  The Chelsea apartments were slightly new and nicer, but the Meadowbrook apartments were bigger and cheaper.  In late summer of 2004, we moved to the south side into a three level town home.  We were welcomed with open arms from the south side dental student crowd.  

Not long after we moved in,  a large tropical depression stalled over Richmond and dumped over 9 inches of rain in one day.  It flooded downtown Richmond and threatened to overwhelm Falling Creek Dam just up from our apartment complex.  In fact, the creek down stream from the Falling Creek Reservoir ran right behind our building.  We watched that afternoon as the water got higher and higher...closer to our back door.  That evening, we were evacuated from our apartments and sent to the local high school gym designated as a make-shift shelter.

Steve and I quickly packed a few belongings and food for us and our two little boys.  We also moved anything of value from the basement level of our town house to the top two levels.   It was horribly muggy and hot that day and I felt massive guilt as I pulled two little sleeping boys out of their beds in only their diaper and underwear to put them in their car seats to leave our home.  We were only at the shelter for maybe an hour (I was in hell being there- kids running around, nowhere to sleep but the blankets we brought...I knew it was going to be the longest night of my life), when members of our ward came and pulled every dental student family out of the shelter and took us to their homes to sleep for the night.  We couldn't make it up to the west end to stay at Steve's brothers house because we heard the roads were closed.  

We stayed at a ladies home with maybe four other dental families.  The only room left for us was the room where this lady's cats lived, ate...and did their business.  She had tried to cover the cat smell (she had quite a few cats) with massive amounts of Fabreeze.  To this day, the smell of Fabreeze makes me gag...and I hate cats even more than I did to begin with.  The next morning, we heard that many of the apartments near Falling Creek had indeed flooded, a bridge had been washed away and the Dam was at risk of breaking.  If it did break, everything we owned would be lost.   I looked at my family and knew without a doubt that none of our stuff mattered.    My husband and two boys were the only important things.   It helped that everything we owned was junk anyway.  (student poverty is comforting in someways)   I did however wonder why in the world we felt we were supposed to move to the south side.  Being evacuated was one of the scariest things I had ever been through.

Later that afternoon, the water started to recede, the dam did not break and we were allowed to return to our apartments.  By some miracle, escaped flooding.  The water came just feet from our door.   The buildings on the right and the left of us had been overcome with water on the bottom level.  The way the creek curved around our building spared us the damage many of our friends had to clean up.  Steve spend the afternoon and next day helping other families clean up and throw out damaged property.  I tried helping the best I could by taking in meals to those next to us.   

After that week, I became afraid of the weather in Virginia.  We had survived a hurricane the year before...our power just flickered on the West End.  (Because our first neighborhood was so new, there were no overgrown trees to knock down lines.  Many of our friends didn't have power for up to eight days.)  But this flooding put a whole new perspective on emergency preparedness for me.  After that, I had our 72 hour kids prepped and updated every year.  I also made a list of what I wanted to take next time we were evacuated (if ever) and what priority everything had....computers, photos, stuff like that.  Luckily, we never encountered a storm like the one we had that September again, but, I learned to dread hurricane season with a passion.  I never truly felt safe there again.  (Idaho weather is awesome.)

This picture is the only digital one I have where you can see where the damage was done.  I have many other pictures of the water, washed out bridges and flooding...but they are all negatives at the moment.  This picture was taken in spring of 2005, months after the flooding.  The entire grassy area where our dental school party is being held was covered with water...right up to where our building was.  
The black railing is our apartment balcony.  Falling Creek runs across the top of the picture.  You can see the downed trees that were cause by massive amounts of water from the storm.  The building at the right corner of the picture was flooded horribly.  Down stream, the apartment tennis courts were completely ruined.  The courts were a rippled crumpled mess.  I will never underestimate the power of water ever again.

Friday, January 18, 2013

Super Dad

I married one of those men (I think they are a rare breed) that on their day off, they don't take time for themselves, but they take their children skiing.
Yesterday the child he took was our three year old Saylor. (taking a three year old skiing sounds tortuous to me.)  Steve said and I quote, "I just want her to be able to keep up with her brothers."
Take in account that he spent most of his ski day on the bunny hill pulling a small child with a hula hoop, teaching her how to put weight on Minnie (right foot) and Micky (left foot).  
Then he went up the lift all of three times before Little Miss honestly starting falling asleep in her skis.
(how do you fall asleep in your skis?)

I'm positive Steve would have had a much better day going skiing by himself...but he didn't.  He's just like that and I love him even more for it.
Thank you Steve for being wonderful in every way.  I appreciate you.

Favorite part of this phone picture while on the lift?
Saylor's skis reflecting on her goggles...not to mention that her goggle are bigger than her face.  Love it!

 "Hi Mom!  I did it!"

Lets pray mountain snow is cleaner than city snow.

Hey Saylor, aren't you missing some equipment...like your skis for instance?
Steve confessed that they took MANY breaks of sitting on the hill and playing in the snow. 
He really is a super-dad.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Andrew's short career as a film maker



Steve bought a movie app for Andrew's Ipod.  Andrew has been busy making movie trailers ever since.
This one is my personal favorite.
...even though it makes me a little nervous about what is going on in his 12 year old mind.


Virginia Pumpkin Patch at Ashland Berry Farms

In dental school, Steve didn't have a lot of time off.  But when he did, we tried to play...as cheaply as possible.
One of the best things to do in the fall was go to one of the pumpkin patches and "pick your own" pumpkin.  (Disclaimer:  we found out very quick that "pick your own" meant choose one of the pumpkins that a kind migrant worker pulled off a truck and strategically placed in the field early that morning for our convenience.  Honestly, none of the pumpkins were still attached to the vine and were suspiciously close to the road...but the kids didn't seem to mind.)
Our favorite pumpkin patch was at Ashland Berry Farms just a quick drive north of Richmond.  It included a short hay ride out to the pumpkin field where you could pick whatever pumpkin your heart desired.  We went almost every year we lived in Virginia.  The first time we went, I was nine months pregnant with Carter, and luckily I don't have pictures.  I was even luckier the bumpy ride didn't put me into labor.
 We went the next fall when Andrew was four and Carter was almost one.

I still laugh every time I look at this picture of Carter's smile!






 These next pictures were from the fall of 2006 when Colby was six months old.
I remember it was ridiculously hot that day and I was sure Colby was going to be sunburned.  Hence the burp cloth make-shift hat.

 This cuteness still slays me.
Notice the pumpkins on the side of the path...neatly placed together?  It was sham I tell you.  A sham.

But the sham didn't keep us from going.  The kids didn't care, they just loved being there.


The fall colors were beautiful and I will always miss the trees and greenery of Virginia.

For a nominal fee, anyone could have as many pumpkins they could carry three steps.  I don't know how Steve pulled this one off, but we robbed that pumpkin patch that year.

So cute...I had to post another one.



Wednesday, January 16, 2013

If only I had access to a midievil public square so I could mock my spouse even more

I've been on a waffle kick lately.  
All I want for breakfast is my Pamela's gluten free baking mix waffles with peanut butter and just a tiny bit of syrup.
I usually make a massive batch and then freeze them.   Then in the morning, I can pop a few in the toaster and have my own version of Eggo waffles.
Unfortunately...my kids really like them to and a massive batch goes fast around here.  I finished off the last two this morning.
At dinner...let me repeat that...at dinner tonight I told Steve I was going to make more waffles later on the evening so I could have breakfast already made in the morning.
Steve got a glint in his eye and declared that the perfect thing to go with waffles in the morning would be Chick-Fil-A nuggets.   He then unveiled a plan to buy 64 nuggets off the catering menu. 
The kiddos cheered unanimously.
With spaghetti still on their plates, the kids were screaming for chicken and waffles.  
Why in the world did even make dinner tonight??  

I told Steve that if he ever bought 64 nuggets off the CATERING menu for our little family, I would publicly mock him on my blog.

So here it is. 
Consider yourself mocked Steve.
(feel free to comment to increase the humiliation)

However, it is a harsh sad reality that NOT ONE of these nuggets will go to waste.
My family is insane.

We lived in Salt Lake for a while

Not soon after we were married, Steve and I moved to Salt Lake City for me to attend my cytology program at the University of Utah.  We moved all our possessions to a rat-hole of an apartment off South temple and 8th east.  I didn't think it was "that" bad until my mom came and declared it worse than anything she had lived in.  
Ok...it was that bad.  
I attended classes at the cytology lab at ARUP laboratories, and Steve commuted to ISU in Pocatello because tuition was cheaper with his Idaho residency.  He lived with my sister and her husband Monday through Thursday, and we only saw each other on the weekends.
Our weekends mostly consisted of working at Spaghetti Factory in Trolley Square.  Steve waited tables and I was a seating hostess...because I wasn't old enough to serve alcohol.  (a child bride I was)  We were poor...ridiculously poor but happy.  We lived on practically nothing and survived by eating the food we could steal from my parents freezer and the free meals we got when we worked shifts at Spaghetti Factory.  To this day, I can't stand the smell of Mizithra Cheese.    For dates, when Steve's tips were good, we would splurge and split a shake and fries at Hire's Big H down the street from our apartment.  I did my best to help with his tips by always seating his section at the restaurant.  I got really good at seating him in a way that he could run his tables efficiently and quickly with a fast turn over.  The other waiters in the restaurant always asked to work in Steve's area of the restaurant because they would make more money if I was seating their tables.  I should have earned commission. 

After I graduated and started making "big" money, we moved to a nicer one bedroom apartment off Fort Union in Midvale.  It was here that Steve applied for Dental school and was declined addmission.  We were devastated.  Steve picked himself up by his boot straps and decided to apply to the U of U and get his MBA in computer information systems.  His background in science helped his application.  The MBA program was looking for diversity...a white Idaho boy with a zoology degree counts for diversity.

A year later we moved to a 2 bedroom apartment down the street (behind Walmart no less) and Andrew was born that August.  Steve started the MBA program that fall.
I continued to work full time and Steve went to school.  We were lucky to have Steve's cousin and his wife live across the sidewalk from us.  She watched Andrew in her home and her little guy just a few days older than Andrew was his little buddy.

The next summer, Steve got an internship working for Boeing in Seattle.  He was gone most of the summer.  Any extra money he made was spent on plane tickets home to see Andrew and I.   He left Boeing with a promise of a position after he graduated.  Sadly...9-11 happened shortly after he returned home and any promise of a job disappeared.   
But even more insane was the confession from my husband about working at Boeing.  He hated it...every minute of it.  He didn't want to work for a boss or behind a computer.  Steve confessed to me that he wanted to apply for dental school again.

This meant 4 more years of school (after he finished up his MBA), hundreds of thousands of dollars in school debt, and me working full time much longer than I had ever anticipated.
Steve had to finish up his MBA before applying to dental school and the years of working full time and not being the mom I wanted to be to Andrew seemed daunting.   But, I wanted Steve happy.  He would (hopefully) be supporting our family the rest of our lives and I couldn't imagine having a husband come home from work everyday miserable.   

So...Steve finished up his MBA. 






In the year between MBA school and when Steve was accepted to dental school was really hard.  I struggled to be happy.  It was honestly more cost efficient for me to work and Steve to stay home with Andrew.  I had a great job at ARUP working as a cytotech.  My job paid very well for a four year degree and the medical benefits alone were worth working there.  (Wish I had those benefits today!  For example...having Andrew cost us $25 and he was in the hospital for a week.  Yep, really wish I had those benefits today.)  But, working everyday and feeling like I had no relationship with this little boy I loved more than anything was tough.  I think this is why I truly appreciate being able to stay home with my children now.  I have lived the other side and would never choose to go back. 
I find my life fulfilling and satisfying being "just" a mom.   (Ha ha...just.  One of these days I should put together a really sarcastic resume together on what being "just" a mom entails.)

Despite our non conventional roles, Steve and I enjoyed our time in Salt Lake.
We enjoyed being a family of three and tried to play as much as time and money would allow.







 There is way more detail to this chapter in our lives, but that might be a post for another day.
In July of 2003, we packed up all our belongings again and moved to Richmond Virginia where Steve would attend dental school at Virginia Commonwealth University for the next five years.  Steve was accepted under the D.5 program which was for non-traditional students.  Steve had been accepted into his MBA program due to his background in science, and was accepted into the dental program because he had and MBA...hurray for diversity and non-traditional.  His first year of dental school was actually a trial period.  If he could complete half of the course classes and receive a certain GPA, he would be grandfathered into the next years class as a first year. 
When we moved to Virginia, I was almost 6 months pregnant with Carter and was looking forward to staying home with my two little boys.  Because of the cost of daycare, it would have made no sense for me to work.  It was cheaper for me to stay home...if you can call living off loans cheaper. 
The next five years could be considered the most fun, hardest, craziest, most adventurous and fondest years of our lives.  Everyone told us that professional school would be the best years of our lives.  I didn't believe them.  But they were right to and extent.  (Life is pretty good right now!) I never knew being so poor and away from family could be so fun.  It was.  I will always look back on Richmond as my home away from home.  

But that being said...coming back to Idaho was fantastic in itself.  Different trials and stresses, but wonderful just the same.
(Except for the shopping...yep, I had to put that in.)


And yes...if you are wondering...I was blonde while in Salt Lake. 
REALLY blonde.  
I had a cute friend who did hair and I was addicted to getting my hair highlighted.  
When we moved to Virginia, I could no longer afford my bleach habit and spend five long years growing out my two toned hair.
Many upcoming pictures of me with bipolar hair.
I have since realized that God intended me to have brown hair.  And I'm ok with it.

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Because nobody wants to eat finger steaks...and hurray, I found newborn pictures of Carter!

I joked with Andrew this morning that he should eat lunch at school today.  The menu read finger steaks.  Um...that has got to be the grossest thing I remember trying to choke down in school.  I made him his lunch despite my teasing.  It's the same boring lunch as he always takes, but at least it's not finger steaks and at least I know he's not going hungry- peanut butter sandwich, fruit leather, Ruffles and homemade cookies. 
 (We made the cookies last night for FHE.  Peanut butter with a Hershey kiss on top.  We also made a few sandwich style with peanut butter cups.  They were all gone this morning...they were the best.)   As the Steve pulled out of the driveway, I noticed Andrew's lunch still on the table.  He had forgotten it again.  I ran to the window to try and catch the boys before they drove away.  I was at the window just in time to see Steve doing cookies in the street. 
 Mature Steve, really mature.  

I ran outside, in my bare feet and wet hair.  It was maybe 10 degrees outside.  I must really love Andrew or really hate finger steaks, one of the two.
Andrew was grateful and Steve laughed sheepishly about the cookies.
Steve then pulled out, spun around again to show off and then almost got stuck in a small drift.
I thought I might wet my pants laughing.  Oh how I wish he would have gotten stuck...just for the humanity of it all. 

Two minutes later I received a phone call from my boys...all of them laughing.
Why is spinning cookies in cars so fun??  I will never understand.



I found on my computer where some of my pictures were hidden.   My computer is tricky and tried to hide these next few shots where I could never find them.

These are some of the only pictures I have of Carter as a newborn that are digital (for now...I need to get my rear in gear and go through negatives).

Carter Dean Dixon was born at 37 weeks on a Sunday night in October.
I had seen my doctor on Friday afternoon.  I was dilated to a three and she told me she didn't think I would make it through the weekend.  Of course...she was leaving town and if I was going to have this baby, one of her partners would be delivering me.
I went to church Sunday morning and as I sat on the pew I didn't feel right.  My entire body hurt and I ached to go home.  Steve drove my home after sacrament meeting and then went back to church with Andrew.   My contractions became regular in the two hours Steve was gone, but they were not painful.
My back became more achy than usual and I remember my stomach being upset.
I called my mom who was scheduled to fly to Virginia to stay with me in just a few days.
 She laughed and declared that I was in labor.
What?
My grandparents were visiting my parents in Idaho and they all joked about how I couldn't wait just three more days until my mom got there.
By late afternoon I was ready to go to the hospital.  My contractions were 5-7 minutes apart and I was NERVOUS.
Steve's brother Gary and his wife Claire lived in the apartment next to us and they graciously took Andrew while we went to the hospital.
I was a four when we got there.
I met the doctor who delivered Carter at 11pm and Carter was born around 11:40. (I would have to look up the exact time to be sure.)  I remember being on the phone with my sister JaNae telling he this baby wouldn't be born until after midnight...by body had other plans.
Carter weighed 6 lbs 8 oz and was TINY.  Our only frame of reference was our chubby Andrew baby of 7 lb 15 oz.  He had a little trouble breathing at first so they whisked him away to the NICU.  He was back in my arms in about an hour declared perfect.

We brought our tiny bundle home two days later.  I remember feeling amazing. I vacuumed the house the day after he came home.  He was a content, but tiny little thing.
My mom came to stay for a week a few days after I was home from the hospital.
We decided that Carter was my little monkey baby.  His dark hair covered his entire little body and he would place his long arms up over his head.  His nose also turned up ever so slightly...just like a monkey.
I remember thinking how silly his skinny bum looked when I changed his diaper.  He had no bum.

Carter continued to be an easy baby.   When Andrew was born, he stayed in the hospital for a week and my life was crazy turned upside down.  With Carter, I was able to stay home and enjoy this tiny sweet boy.  
(This is not the most flattering picture of Carter...he really was adorable.)

Cute little monkey boy.

Steve's favorite picture of his poof ball baby.

Luckily...my tiny Carter had NO problems filling out and quickly turned into a chub of a baby.
These pictures were taken at 6 weeks old.
No starvation here.
(The very young photographer, told me not to worry about his eyes...that they could fix them when he got older.  18 year olds apparently don't know that ALL babies cross their eyes and she also didn't know how to center a picture.)

 My cute boys.

 In this pictures I swear Carter resembles a Cabbage Patch Doll.

More evidence that Carter was well fed.

Really well fed.
This picture was taken as Steve and I teased our poor baby.  I would hide behind the couch and Carter would get this pouty sad face.  As soon as I popped up, he could grin and laugh.  I caught this shot just at the right pouty moment.

Watch out other kids!  This little man might eat you if you are not careful!
Honestly, Carter was my happiest baby- always smiling and content!
Oh how I enjoyed him.  
It was probably the fact that Carter was such a joy that we had Colby only 2 1/2 years later.